What Chores Should a 12-Year-Old Do?

When thinking about assigning age-appropriate chores for your kids, it’s best to pick from a list of different categories.

Chores they’ve mastered:

• Pick a few chores they’re already really good at and can teach their younger siblings (if they have any). This may include loading a dishwasher, doing the laundry, dusting, etc.

Chores they’re working on:

• Pick a few chores they can do on their own, but haven’t yet mastered (creating chore step-by-step expectation cards for these is a good idea). This may include mowing the lawn, cooking a simple meal, etc.

Chores you help them with:

• Pick a few chores that may be a little complex to handle on their own but that they can help you with so they can start understanding how the process works.
• Remember that one of the ways kids learn best is with hands-on training, with you modeling the behaviors you want them to adopt.

Chores that can help them earn money:

• One of the ways you can help your child learn money management is to pay them for doing certain difficult chores.
• Use the opportunity to teach them about saving, budgeting, and wise spending.

Remember that your chances of success are higher if you gradually increase your expectations as your child matures, guiding them along the way. This gives them confidence in their skills and will help them grow to be responsible adults. 

At the age of 12, kids may become more talkative and show a sense of humor. Everything is changing for them. Below are common milestones for a 12-year-old child:

Cognitive development

• Develop the ability to think abstractly and engage in “what if?” reasoning, grappling with moral and ethical questions.
• Displays more sophisticated reasoning skills, allowing them to consider possible justifications for exceptions to rules, although they may still have naive opinions.
• Should have a good command of reading and writing.
• Can understand fictional characters’ intentions and follow several storylines at the same time.

Social and emotional development

• May start to distance themselves from family and have increased focus on their peers (both same- and opposite sex).
• Form friendships based on common interests.
• More sensitivity to social drama, peer pressure, etc. and aware of popularity and social pecking orders.
• Become preoccupied with appearance and have strong likes and dislikes, in part because they care so much about peer approval
• May feel self-conscious about their physical changes, feel pressure to conform to cultural gender norms and become intolerant of cross-gender mannerisms and behaviors.
• May engage in risky behavior such as watching films unsuitable for their age and trying alcohol, cigarettes, or drugs. 

Physical development

• May begin puberty at this age.
• Experience mood swings due to growth spurts and hormonal imbalances.
• More aware of their appearance, and body consciousness may become a big issue.
• May be interested in sex and try to experiment.