The Ultimate Sex Diet

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Just in time for Valentine's Day, a book that touts the slimming and rejuvenating benefits of sex. But does it work? Author Kerry McCloskey joined us on Feb. 8 to explain her theory of using sex to improve your health while jump-starting your love life.

The opinions expressed herein are the guests' alone and have not been reviewed by a WebMD physician. If you have questions about your health, you should consult your personal physician. This event is meant for informational purposes only.

MODERATOR:
Welcome to WebMD Live, Ms. McCloskey. The first paragraph of your book reads: "I have an amazing secret. It has changed my life. It has made me healthier and happier than ever before." Tell us more! What is this secret?

McCLOSKEY:
The secret is that I have discovered a comprehensive new diet program that incorporates sex and actually uses it as a tool to help you lose weight. The plan includes everything from sensual foods to exercises you can do with your partner. This includes sex, exercise that isn't sex, and techniques for igniting desire and boosting your sexual confidence.

MEMBER QUESTION:
My husband bought your book for me/us about a month ago, and I want to thank you so much because it works! We both lost a few pounds, but most importantly to me, is that I feel like we're on our honeymoon again. Anyway, my question is, is it unhealthy to have too much sex? We've been making love about twice a day, is that ok?

McCLOSKEY:
I think it's wonderful and I think twice a day is well above the norm, but I think it's a great thing. As long as no one's getting hurt I would encourage you to continue and have fun. I'm sure that in addition to your increased intimacy you're enjoying the health benefits, as well. You've probably noticed an elevation in your mood and you're probably feeling less stressed and sleeping better, as well. Thank you for purchasing the book, I'm glad you enjoyed it.

"The secret is that I have discovered a comprehensive new diet program that incorporates sex and actually uses it as a tool to help you lose weight."

MEMBER QUESTION:
Does your book discuss the best positions to use to maximize calories burned during lovemaking?

McCLOSKEY:
Yes, it does discuss some positions that can be used to specifically target and tone areas of the body. Some require more flexibility than others, so you may need to work up to them. Additionally, the book includes exercises that can be used as a form of foreplay that are not sex. These are exercises you can do in the bedroom with your partner where you're using each other almost as if you're specialized gym equipment. So, in a sense, your partner serves as your personal trainer.

MODERATOR:
You talk about floor play "sexercises." Could you describe them?

McCLOSKEY:
Sure. I'll describe a couple of these exercises. There is one called the Chest Press, where literally one person is lying on the floor and first one partner does pushups and they can give each other little kisses in between while the one person is working their arm muscles. Then they can switch and the person on the bottom uses the person on the top as a weight and works their arm muscles. Another one that is fun to do is one called the Libido Lifter, where both partners lie on the floor facing the same direction and lift their top leg together. These exercises may sound silly but they actually work. They are fun and nothing gets you in the mood more than laughing and having fun.

MODERATOR:
The names of some of the exercises are fun themselves: Elvis Pelvis, Crunchy Kiss, Love Squat, Sexy Breath and The See-Saw.

McCLOSKEY:
The Love Squat is a hand-holding relationship-building exercise, where you stand facing each other with your legs shoulder-width apart and you hold hands and bend your legs and lower your bottom until it's parallel to the floor, all the while holding hands. Then I suggest you hold the position for three seconds. Then stand back up.

MODERATOR:
And this can be done clothed or naked!

McCLOSKEY:
I have notices that a lot of men have responded well to this diet. I think it's another one men enjoy, just like Atkins. On that diet they loved the fact they could have steak. On mine, it is also about something pleasurable and includes one of life's greatest indulgences, which is sex.

"Since 95% of diets fail, I figured this was a plan that other people could enjoy and succeed with because this diet is about pleasure, not denial."

MODERATOR:
How did you discover this diet?

McCLOSKEY:
I discovered the diet during a particular time of romance and passion in my relationship. I noticed that our intimacy was having an effect on my body, so I figured why not use it as an actual tool to lose weight and transform my whole existence to be more sensual and I found that it was a cycle. The better I looked the more sex I wanted and the more sex I had, the better I looked. Since 95% of diets fail, I figured this was a plan that other people could enjoy and succeed with because this diet is about pleasure, not denial. And, it's easy to stay motivated when you receive such a great reward with your body and your relationship!

MEMBER QUESTION:
So, what's a typical day on the sex diet?

McCLOSKEY:
I recommend having sex 3 to 5 times per week and doubling up on the weekend. So, a typical day, depending on what your time frame is, could begin with sex, if you choose to in the morning, and then a healthy, well-balanced breakfast (I encourage fruit and protein and some whole grains.)

Then, throughout the day, I encourage couples to fantasize and think about eating sexy as well. Make eating a sensory experience. It takes the stomach 12 to 16 minutes to transfer signals to your brain that you're full. If you eat your meal slower and chew more, you will feel satiated on less food, in addition to feeling more sensual.

Throughout the day I would encourage people to rechannel their cravings. They should realize for instance, that if they're craving fatty food out of boredom, they should replace it with a thought of how they're going to surprise their partner that night. Then their mind will be more on their sweetie than on sweets.

I also recommend that you dress sexy. Many people wait until after they've lost weight to buy new clothes, but never actually lose the weight because they feel bad about themselves during the day because they're wearing unflattering clothing. Whereas, if you dress for success you'll feel more personal motivation. What better feeling after you've lost the weight than to have those clothes that you used to feel good in be too big?

Finally, I also recommend supplementing the plan with moderate exercise, taking long romantic walks with your partner, or bike rides, or go swimming together. Exercising is fun when you have a buddy; it allows you to spend more time together and this keeps you motivated.

MEMBER QUESTION:
Can sex really be considered exercise?

McCLOSKEY:
Yes. On average we burn 150 to 250 calories per half-hour session. It can be up to 350 if you're really wild. There are of course positions that require more strength and flexibility that are exercise, as well.

MODERATOR:
Do you explain those positions in detail in your book?

McCLOSKEY:
Yes. I explicitly tell you how to engage in them in the book. There's one called Let's Get Crazy which is a great exercise for the woman's stomach and buttocks. While lying on her back, the woman extends her legs straight in the air, slightly spread, with her rear lifted. The man bends down in a slight squat, lifting her. So, he is using his arms for support working his triceps and his quads, as well.

"Exercising is fun when you have a buddy; it allows you to spend more time together and this keeps you motivated."

MODERATOR:
Get the book to get the details about the Reverse Cowgirl, the Humpty Bumpty, the Wheelbarrow of Fun and more.

MEMBER QUESTION:
Can you recommend some foods that boost the libido?

McCLOSKEY:
There are even spices that can boost libido, such as mustard. Ginger is also very good because it's a stimulant for the circulatory system. Even garlic has been known to heat up the passion, but of course you may need to keep a toothbrush handy.

I recommend salmon because the Omega 3 fatty acid raises the serotonin levels in the brain, which lifts your mood and makes you less irritable.

Berries are of course a great sensual treat. The compounds in them relax your blood vessels, which improve circulation; they also have a great deal of soluble fiber which pushes the cholesterol through the digestive system, which is very healthy. Of course the best part is hand-feeding them to your partner. Eating them with low-fat cream makes them all the more fun.

Arugula has been documented as an aphrodisiac since the first century. Spinach is great as well, as it makes you look younger. Celery emits a scent that attracts women after men eat it, and celery is very healthy for you. Of course there are a variety of vegetables which are phallic in shape, which can be suggestive, like asparagus or cucumbers.

Oysters are the standard; they're a well-known aphrodisiac. They're also a great source of protein. Again, the hand-feeding can be very sensual, as well.

MEMBER QUESTION:
Is there any science behind these aphrodisiac foods or is it all myth?

McCLOSKEY:
A lot of it is the power of the mind, but there are some that have been documented in studies. I believe it's also personal -- a food can work for one person because of a memory. In terms of when you have increased blood circulation, you're going to be more capable of becoming aroused. In general, avoiding fatty foods, which inhibit the production of testosterone, will be beneficial. Too many carbohydrates will make you lethargic, as well. In the book I also recommend techniques for snacking that can help you control cravings.

MEMBER QUESTION:
My wife and I love your diet plan! My problem is that I snack way too much. Any tips on controlling my snacking urges?

McCLOSKEY:
Of course there is the mental state I recommend, where you try to rechannel your cravings, but of course sometimes when you are hungry you must snack on something. I have techniques, such as if you're craving chips, buy an individual pack of soy crisps. The serving is controlled and the soy is very healthy for you and much better for you than, of course, the fried chips. If you're craving candy, fruit is nature's candy which is the best substitute, but if you must have sugar, try hard candies, so it's a controlled portion rather than eating a bucket of Gummy Bears. Even techniques like freezing those indulgences when you must absolutely have them can keep the portion controls down, but I do allow small portions of dark chocolate, because I'm sure we've all heard about how it is an antioxidant and is good in small portions.

"After sex we experience a boost in production of a hormone called prolactyn, which triggers the stem cells in the area of the brain that control your sense of smell to work more effectively. Interestingly enough, it also makes you smarter."

MEMBER QUESTION:
What about the so-called "body chocolate?"

McCLOSKEY:
Yes, if there's a sugar-free variety that would be best, but yes, body chocolates can help to control your portions of chocolate indulgences and enhance your pleasure in the bedroom.

MEMBER QUESTION:
My husband says he heard sex can improve your sense of smell and skin clarity. Is that true?

McCLOSKEY:
Yes. After sex we experience a boost in production of a hormone called prolactyn, which triggers the stem cells in the area of the brain that control your sense of smell to work more effectively. Interestingly enough, it also makes you smarter. Intense stimulation leads to the formation of new dendrites, which are the filaments attached to new nerve cells that allow neurons to communicate with each other. The more dendrites you have, the more you think, and the better you remember.

MEMBER QUESTION:
How do you deal with those days when you're just too tired to make love? I mean, this is a brilliant concept, and a heck of a lot more fun than riding the Stairmaster, but some days I'm just too tired to make love.

McCLOSKEY:
On those days you can get yourself in the mood by starting small. Maybe you won't have sex that day, but kissing and caressing can help keep you on the program. And also you should know that sex works as a stress reliever, and of course, as a sedative as well. So during that half-hour when you're feeling exhausted and tossing and turning, if you would instead have sex, you may get to sleep faster and you'll feel refreshed the following day.

MEMBER QUESTION:
My concern is that my hubby has been too stressed out to make love for weeks. He's an accountant, and until after "busy season" he doesn't have any time! How do I make your diet plan work in my situation?

McCLOSKEY:
I think it's your duty to find a special time in the day when you can seduce him. Talk to him and let him know that you understand how stressed he is and tell him you would like to indulge him and make it a treat for him. Hopefully that will help. Even silly things like when you take a car ride together, if you pull over and park and make out like you're teenagers, it can surprisingly get you in the mood. I think the communication and the intimacy in small doses should help his libido. And he will crave you in the bedroom. And the stress reliever is of course a key selling point for him, as well.

"Even silly things like when you take a car ride together, if you pull over and park and make out like you're teenagers, it can surprisingly get you in the mood."

MEMBER QUESTION:
How do couples who have differing sex drives find a balance that is healthy for both partners?

McCLOSKEY:
That is a challenge often, and it is your responsibility to try to synchronize together. Of course communication is the first step and maybe some nights when one person's in the mood and the other isn't, the one person can simply indulge the other person and while they're doing so, they may actually get in the mood. Also, I think we all should make a point to understand and do our best to say yes to sex and not just discard the possibility, because your mood can easily switch if you make it a priority. At the same time, the person who is in the mood shouldn't just expect to jump right in to the activity and should, of course, remember foreplay and the steps necessary to seduce their partner.

MEMBER QUESTION:
Kerry, first, I want you to know your book has completely changed my life. Are you going to put out a recipe book?

McCLOSKEY:
I do plan to put out a recipe book in the future and I'm actually going to be discussing some recipes at a medical convention at UCLA in April.

MEMBER QUESTION:
I just found your lovediet.com web site online. You say there that sex can make you live longer. Is this documented anywhere? Are there any scientific studies backing this up?

McCLOSKEY:
Yes, actually a study that took place at Duke University followed about 300 men and women over the course of 25 years. Frequency was found to be a significant indicator of longevity for men, and enjoyment was found to be an indicator for women. And of course, the more time spent in the bedroom the less likely you will be to be hit by a bus in the street.

MODERATOR:
Kerry, can you recap the top 10 health benefits off sex?

McCLOSKEY:
Sure. Sex:

  1. Burns calories
  2. Helps you live longer
  3. Reduces stress and depression
  4. Improves your memory and keeps your mind sharp
  5. Helps you look younger
  6. Boosts your immune system
  7. Improves your sense of smell
  8. Strengthens your heart
  9. Strengthens bones and muscles
  10. Provides pain relief

The endorphins and oxytocins that are released are known to help relieve headaches and menstrual cramps. The endorphins will, of course, refocus your mind on your partner instead of your pain.

MEMBER QUESTION:
Thanks. Where can I get your book?

McCLOSKEY:
On lovediet.com, amazon.com, barnesandnoble.com and local bookstores.

"I think this is a comprehensive program that can be used to increase your pleasure, improve your health and strengthen your relationship."

MEMBER QUESTION:
I think your diet plan is a brilliant concept, and you look gorgeous too. How do I get my boyfriend to go along with it? He's very sensitive to talking about sex and thinks it should just be spontaneous.

McCLOSKEY:
I think that if you focus on all of the benefits of this plan and tell him about many of your desires, you can keep it spontaneous and he will be in the mood more often, since he will be using it as a tool to improve his body. On the plan, you serve as your partner's personal nutritionist, trainer, and in a sense, therapist, because it's up to you to keep your partner focused, indulged, and happy, of course.

MODERATOR:
We are almost out of time, Ms. McCloskey. Before we wrap things up for today, do you have any final words for us?

McCLOSKEY:
I think this is a comprehensive program that can be used to increase your pleasure, improve your health and strengthen your relationship. I hope that everyone will enjoy it. I would love to hear how their lives have changed after trying the plan. They can contact me through the web site directly -- lovediet.com, or email me at [email protected]

MODERATOR:
Our thanks to Kerry McCloskey for joining us today. Find out more about Ms. McCloskey's theory of using sex to improve your health, while jump-starting your love life, by reading her book, The Ultimate Sex Diet: The Secret Scientific Formula for a Slimmer, Healthier, More Passionate Life. And thanks to you, members for your great questions. I'm sorry we couldn't get to all of them.


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