Patient Comments: Senior Sex - Experience

Question:Have you found your sex drive has decreased as you have aged?

Comment from: Susan, 65-74 Female (Patient) Published: November 26

No, but my husband's sure has. Between diabetes and an operation to make the prostrate smaller, he is not interested. Period. The doctor doesn't seem to care. This is frustrating, as you can imagine.

Comment from: girl again, 55-64 Female Published: December 02

I am 58, postmenopausal and widowed 3 years ago. My marriage of 33 years was not made in heaven, and I had no desire for sex with my late husband. Now 3 years later, I have met a man, who just at the thought of him causes me to feel like I have the hormones of a teenager. I do not understand this new me, and am concerned that I seem to throw all caution to the wind when we are together. Of course he loves it, as do I.

Comment from: Mekong69, 55-64 Male Published: September 15

Actually, I still have the sex drive and desire as I did when I was in my 20's, & 30's. I'm currently 61 and engage in sex twice a week, with wife of 40 years. We're very active and enjoy each other as it was the first time...

Comment from: raldaman, 75 or over Male Published: April 19

The short answer is yes to a certain extent. The main problem, however, is inability to achieve and maintain a full erection.

Comment from: Bee, 75 or over Male (Patient) Published: March 23

No, but the ability to act on it sure has declined.

Comment from: fantasea, 65-74 Male (Patient) Published: March 07

I had an active sex drive when I was younger. 5 times a week. Now I have no real desire. I also have ED but feel its more loss of desire than ED.

Comment from: Lisa, 55-64 Female (Patient) Published: February 28

My sex drive has increased as I have aged. I attribute that to having more energy and time since I retired.

Comment from: realow, 65-74 Male (Patient) Published: December 06

My wife and I have just been apart too much and we haven't had sex in a few years, but both are anxious to now. My anxieties and nervousness and fear of failure kill my sex drive. I think if I just had some good strong medicine we could get through this.

Comment from: outlawdan59, 55-64 Male (Patient) Published: December 06

I've noticed that my late 30's I started having problems. I ended up with diabetes which my doctor stated I had been diabetic for quite a while. Also, I have high blood pressure. I'm 59 years young not married. I hope to meet someone that wouldn't have a problem with it.

Comment from: class22jem, 65-74 Female Published: November 15

In my upper sixties, I have sex a bit less often than when I was younger, but I do enjoy it more each time. The slowing down of the whole process makes it more pleasurable for me. It's no longer a rushed process but a low savoring of feelings and sensations. It's great when you're with somebody you love.

Comment from: hillybigbertha, 75 or over Female Published: May 03

My sex drive decreased when I was about 70 years old. I have now reached the age of 90 and find that although I don't want sex as often, I still enjoy it. My lover of 54 years and I have sex about two or three times each month. But sometimes late at night when I'm alone I have sex with myself. I'm amazed at the wonder of it.

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