Virtual Sex (cont.)
For the uninitiated, teledildonics (or cyberdildonics) refers to sex toys that can be controlled with a computer. The "Sinulator," for example, produced by Sinulate Entertainment in Sunnyvale, California, is a wireless vibrator that connects to any computer with an Internet hookup and a Windows operating system.
The Sinulator's counterpart is the "Interactive Fleshlight," a penis sleeve for men that transmits in-and-out action into vibrations for the Sinulator on the other end. "Just install the software," says Sinulate's web site, "plug in your Interactive Fleshlight, and pick a partner!"
Technology and long-distance sex
Kyle Machulis, operator of slashdong.org, a Web site about the combination of sex and technology and a self-described "tinkerer/hacker/pioneer/visionary in the realm of sex technology," is a major proponent of open-source teledildonics. But, he says, the real-world functionality of computer-enabled sex toys hasn't really caught up with its potential. "There are some cool ideas that just don't work in implementation," he says. Still, says Machulis, teledildonics are "changing long-distance relationships for the better," allowing couples to "finally be physical over the wire." And, he argues, we "haven't even seen the tip of the iceberg" in the field of virtual sex toys.
Allowing separated couples to stay in touch, almost literally, is only one of the many positive aspects that virtual-sex advocates see in the refinement of - and increasingly widespread access to - cyber-sex technologies. "One of the huge benefits is safety," says Brenda Brathwaite, a veteran video game developer (whose credits include Playboy: The Mansion) and author of Sex in Video Games. In addition to STD-free interactions, Brathwaite says virtual worlds offer users the ability to explore sexuality in an anonymous environment. "There's no safer place to meet," she says, "than in a virtual world."
The Internet can also be a boon for busy adults, Brathwaite says, allowing people to have social and romantic encounters online that they simply don't have time for in conventional space. "For a busy single mom or dad whose life is packed with activity," she says, "at the end of the day virtual worlds can allow them to socialize."
Sex therapy and sex education via computer
Brathwaite, who is also a professor at Savannah College of Art and Design, says cybersex holds tremendous potential for education on sexual health topics for youth and at-risk populations as well as untapped potential for sex therapy for couples. "You could walk a couple through a facilitated session," she says, "while they are in the privacy of their own bedroom."
Cory Silverberg, a sexual health educator and founding member of Come As You Are, an education-based sex store in Toronto, says, "What's good about cybersex is that it allows people to conceive of new possibilities," whether that means a disabled person gaining greater access to the sexual sphere or someone "fulfilling their fetish fantasies beyond anything that we could have imagined."