Relationship Problems and How to Solve Them (cont.)

Although relationships have their ups and downs, there are things you can both do that may well minimize marriage problems, if not help avoid them altogether, says psychologist Karen Sherman. Be realistic. Thinking your mate will meet all your needs -- and will be able to figure them out without your asking -- is a Hollywood fantasy. "Ask for what you need directly," Karen Sherman says.

Use humor -- learn to let things go and enjoy one another more. And be willing to work on your relationship and to truly look at what needs to be done. Don't think that it will be better with someone else; the same problems you have in this relationship because of lack of skills will still exist.

SOURCES:

Mary Jo Fay, RN, MSN, author, When Your Perfect Partner Goes Perfectly Wrong, and Please Dear, Not Tonight.

Karen Sherman, PhD, author, Marriage Magic! Find It, Keep It, Make It Last.

Allison Cohen, M.A., MFT.

Mitch Temple, MS, author of The Marriage Turnaround.

Paulette Kouffman Sherman, PhD, author, Dating from the Inside Out: How to Use the Law of Attraction in Matters of the Heart.

Gail Cunningham, spokeswoman, National Foundation for Credit Counseling.

Jonathan Alpert, MA.

Elaine Fantle Shimberg, author, Blending Families.

Reviewed on March 06, 2009

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