What to Do if the Kids Catch You in the Act
Caught in a compromising position? How to explain it to the kids.
By Louanne Cole Weston
Reviewed By Brunilda Nazario, MD
Steve and Laura thought the kids were asleep. He'd been away on a business trip and they were eager to be together. Too eager, perhaps--they'd failed to lock their bedroom door. As it turned out, 8-year-old James hadn't had enough time with Daddy, either. Hoping to crawl into bed for some extra snuggles, he walked in without knocking.
Standing in the doorway for three long seconds ("one one thousand, two one thousand, three one thousand"), James saw things he'd never seen his parents doing before, until Steve and Laura realized he was there. How did he--and they--handle it?
The answer largely hinged on one thing: how much accurate and age-appropriate information Steve and Laura had already shared with James. If a child has had many small, casual conversations about sexuality with his or her parents starting as soon as language begins, then the reaction isn't likely to be a negative one.
So, while I always advise parents to check that they've locked their bedroom door (and install a lock if one is missing), I also tell them not to be devastated by a surprise visit. There is no harm in children understanding that parents share a special way of being physically intimate with each another. (In fact, it's very healthy.) Such an experience may be embarrassing, but the best approach is to remain calm and matter-of-fact. Parents can say, "We are having some private time together and we would like you to leave the room. Please be sure to close the door."
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