Health Benefits of a Sincere Apology
Saying you're sorry is potent
medicine for the giver and receiver.
By Star Lawrence
We all know the feeling. You gossiped and the person
found out. You helped yourself to something that wasn't yours (such as someone's
spouse). You stole. You lied. You read your child's diary. It never sits quite
right -- you toss, you turn in bed, you have that sinking feeling in your chest, you eat, you drink
too much, you get headaches.
Carol Orsborn, PhD, a research associate at UCLA and author of 15 books
including Nothing Left Unsaid: Words to Help You and Your Loved Ones Through
the Hardest Times and The Silver Pearl: Our Generation's Journey to
Wisdom, tells WebMD about a woman she met while writing the latter book.
Barbara, age 50, was going through a divorce and her
brother was her mainstay, talking her through lonely nights on the phone. Then
she met the man of her dreams and moved away. She got so swept up in her new life, she put her
brother on the backburner. She missed his birthday.
That's when the sleepless nights began. She was embarrassed to even call. She
knew he would be hurt -- but would he be angry? Eventually, she picked up the
phone. Yes, he was hurt, but he said he understood. She started sleeping again
-- and talking to her brother.