Health Makeover with Marilu Henner: Week Three (cont.)
Henner: I'm big on the phone.
Fay_Moderator: Just dropping someone an email ..
Fay_Moderator: I'm sure your community on your website feels good when you're responding to them.
Henner: They might think "oh, she's watching us", and it's not like that... it's like I'm one of them.
Fay_Moderator: 'She's watching this!' Sure.
Henner: I think we have to pay attention to one another, and there's so many people that are like those sitting at the dance. Go ask that person to dance. There are so many people who are good dancers, and they're waiting for someone to ask them out to the floor. I use dancing as a metaphor for everything.
Blaine_Moderator: I love to dance! I've got a question from a WebMD user ... I have been really burned out at the end of the day. What are some ways I can find some pep, especially when coming home and having to deal with the kids?
Henner: What you can do is spend a half hour regrouping, or find a half hour before you get home. And people ask about the rest of their family, how they can get this person on the program or that? And you know how when you're on a airplane, and they say that when the oxygen mask comes down, you have to put it on yourself first? I say that you have to strengthen yourself first. If you're coming home at night, and you're so drained from your day... well, you might need a day to regroup before you can walk in. A guilty parent makes the worst parent, Dr. Strom says. Meditate, exercise... read something. Something to clear your mind so you're at square one again.
Fay_Moderator: Right, oh! I don't want to tell you what I tell them when I'm feeling ...
Blaine_Moderator: Exercise or meditate or something ... Right.
Fay_Moderator: Everything Old is New Again!
Henner: We talked about hamper last week. Something always being off in your life.
Fay_Moderator: Spa on a Budget!
Henner: Nothing can make you look more together than a new pair of shoes, bag, whatever. But a lot of us can't afford it; I'm saying go to your closet, take out every pair of shoes that you know can use a bit of work, and take it to your shoe repair place. Take that bag you bought in orange, and you can have that dyed. Get more use out of the things you have by just doing a little repair work.
Fay_Moderator: Right! Yes, yes. Red. You did that with your shoes, didn't you?
Blaine_Moderator: I did!
Henner: Did you?
Blaine_Moderator: I've been moving and found all these old shoes and took them to the shoe repair shop and said dye them and re-sole them and got them back the next day ... they didn't cost that much! They look great and I'm wearing them! It was your tip!
Henner: I love shoes, and I have this theory -- I think people who have ever had a weight problem have a good shoe collection and wear too much blush.
Fay_Moderator: Shoe collection and getting your nails done! (laughs!)
Henner: That's great, whatever's going to make you feel better. I still love shoes and everything else, but I have terrible feet... from years of dancing.
Fay_Moderator: Is that from dancing? Right.
Henner: I have to be really careful -- I'm always wearing comfortable shoes unless I'm sitting down.
Fay_Moderator: That's a great question, cause we call this Spa on a Budget and you talk about not necessarily having to splash out the money for expensive spas for the rich and the famous ... so ....
Moderator: What are some fast ways to get out of a slump or depression when dieting?
Henner: Another one of my theories, is to do something small to make yourself feel better. And it becomes my mantra, and when I was first putting this program together, and I thought what is it when I wake up and feel so tired or whatever... But when I was a single girl, I'd think what can I do to make myself feel better? And it's amazing how those little tasks help you with the big picture. And whether it's exercise you do or an organization thing you do, or listening to great music... I think music can put you in a better mood than anything else. I think music is a great way to go; it's a quick fix. And one of the things I say to do, is when you call somebody to put you in a better mood and get involved in a conversation with them.
Blaine_Moderator: (laughs!) I'm so over that now!
Fay_Moderator: Yeah that's good.
Moderator: Are there ways to change things that we consider a job into a pleasure?
Henner: This is one of our tips, coming up! The more you're excited about doing something, the less you'll call it work. Within what they might not like to do, and within every job, there's something they can do to excite them, something in a task that will always be the thing to get them going. If you have passion for something, you have so much energy for it. It's like that old Tom Sawyer syndrome. He starts to do it, and everybody else started to do it.
Blaine_Moderator: Like painting the fence ..
Henner: And if you can find that little thing in your task that you have a good time doing, you'll get it done so much faster. And this includes playing music if you have a job. Or make it a challenge. When I have my boys and think when I have to make my boys clean their room, we'll turn it into a game. I might stick a big wastebasket, and it'll become a big basketball game.
Blaine_Moderator: Uh huh.
Fay_Moderator: Right, okay.
Blaine_Moderator: I'll remember that one.
Henner: It's the old Mary Poppins adage.
Fay_Moderator: Every job that has to be done!