Health Makeover with Marilu Henner: Week Three (cont.)
Henner: Sometimes Plan B can be so much better. What I'm asking people to do is instead of getting very upset and not being very resilient, is to say "what's this opportunity around the corner that Plan B is presenting me?" And it's people that can pick themselves up from disappointment that are usually the healthiest people. It's about being ready to go on with your life. You've got to be ready to roll with the punches.
Fay_Moderator: It's like growing up in England, you always have to have Plan B cause it's always raining on Plan A! (laughs!) The weather always spoils everything! Someone said here .... Do you have a "plan C"?
Henner: Oh sure!
Henner: Did you ever read the Hat in the Cat? And the little cat at the bottom?
Fay_Moderator: Right, right ....yes.
Henner: Sometimes it takes all those to find out what you really want to do. Plan B can be on an extremely profound level too -- where there's a disappointment, death, or anything in your life that shakes it up and forces you to see things differently.
Fay_Moderator: Plan B worked, right. How does it relate to eating? One of the things we're talking about is how am I changing my eating? And, then they've got this strict plan for themselves and sure enough, they fall off the wagon ...
Henner: We're always a work in progress, and we're always learning something new. It's our ability to pick ourselves up and dust ourselves off from yesterday, know we made a couple mistakes, and move on from there.
Fay_Moderator: Okay. Right.
Henner: Because we're people, we're human, and we make mistakes. Save perfection for when you're dead. You'll be perfectly dead. So learn from those mistakes and move on.
Blaine_Moderator: Keep moving forward .... Marilu, you have a question here .... How do your "plan A" and "plan B" goals typically differ?
Henner: I'm always trying different things. Earlier in my career, I thought I'd live in New York and work on Broadway my entire life. And when I came out here, I didn't like it, but I learned to love L.A. The biggest Plan A and Plan B in my life is that I expected to have my parents my entire life, but they died so young. So the only way to deal with it was to find out what it was that killed them, and study the human body, and try to help my brothers and sisters.
Blaine_Moderator: So, this was really the keystone to changing your life?
Henner: Losing my parents has probably informed my life more than anything else.
Fay_Moderator: Yeah, because they died of specific heart health issues? This is really Plan B ... look how huge Plan B is, you know!
Henner: This is Plan B. No question about it.
Blaine_Moderator: What a terrific Plan B! You talk about Amnesty Day .. what is that?
Henner: In Chicago, January 2nd was called Amnesty Day, and it was the one day that the public library said "we know you have a bunch of books out there", so January 2nd, we'd take those books back to the library, free of charge.
Fay_Moderator: (laughs!) Return them!! That is too cute!
Blaine_Moderator: And, you had an armful, right?
Henner: So what I'm saying is that we all have things in our home that belong to our neighbors, friends, brothers and sisters... go through your house, and it's amazing how much clutter you'll get rid of because it belongs to someone else.
Fay_Moderator: Uh huh. (agrees)
Blaine_Moderator: You want me to give my neighbor's tools back! (laughs!)
Henner: Go through your house, get the things that belong to someone else, put them in a laundry basket, and give them back.
Fay_Moderator: What benefits does Amnesty Day have?
Henner: I can't remember how many times I've said "where's that sweater". And someone else has it, and I feel bad calling them back about it.
Blaine_Moderator: Right! We can take this a step farther and use it as a day of forgiving our enemies, too.
Fay_Moderator: yeah, might be a day to call some people up and invite them over for dinner or ...
Henner: Invite them over for a healthy dinner!
Fay_Moderator: Invite them over for a healthy dinner, I'm on this new kick and you're going to be a part of it whether you like it or not! (laughs!)
Henner: All food can be placed on this number line, from extremely salty to sweet. And they've learned from studying children that centered food makes centered children. And you start losing those extreme feelings of anger and resentment, not only for yourself but for other people.Henner: And one of the tips this week or next week is exercise for forgiveness.
Blaine_Moderator: Marilu, while we're talking about food tips, you have 7 Essentials for being Gourmet Ready, what are those?
Henner: If you have those 7 things, cilantro, beets, basil, grated carrots, lime, dill... I talked to this wonderful chef I know, and she said that as long as she has those things in her cupboard, she can take any dish and turn it into something.
Fay_Moderator: Beets, grated carrots ....
Blaine_Moderator: Lime, Dill ...
Henner: Because not only will it add flavor but also color. As soon as somebody comes over, you might want to put something colorful like beets or carrots on your plate. They're easy to have in your refrigerator and they last a long time as well. They have good vitamins as well.