Menopause: A New Perspective (cont.)

lmae47_lycos: Now that I don't understand. Why shame? Every woman will go through this, it is not a disease. I have heard it referred to as that too

Posner: No, it's not a disease. It's just a natural thing. It's like getting our periods was a natural thing. It's just another passage that we go through. Quite frankly, for me, it was so liberating for me to burn those tampons!

Moderator: You actually burned your tampons?

Posner: You know, it's very funny, I am a little bit of a whacko when it comes to shopping. Being British, I love all these big places like Costco and all that. And Gerald always says I'm stocking up for World War III and I bought so much of them. And I used to say to him as soon as menopause hit I'm going to burn those things. And he took me quite literally and we had a nice little bonfire. That's why I say the book does have that side of humor to it, which you can really appreciate.

sammy49_webmd: May I ask the title of the book?

Posner: My book is called, This is not Your Mother's Menopause: One Woman's Natural Journey Through Change and it's available at  The web site is where you can also find out more and get the book. You can also find my husband's work there, too. He also has a show on the History Channel every Sunday morning at 10:30. It's a wonderful little show. He's one of a panel of four men on this show

lmae47_lycos: Off the subject a little: You say your father had and died from colon cancer. Have you had the screening for this?

Posner: I'm going in November. I think actually a great person who has done wonders for that is Katie Couric. I think it's a test that all us ladies when we're at least 50 because it's one of those tests that if they find everything early you're just A-OK. My uncle had that done and he lost it for 20 years afterwards. I'm pretty good. I go for my mammograms. In fact, I'm going next week for that. I do all my tests each year, like my eye exams.

Moderator: Did you have to rethink your relationship with tofu and soy during menopause?

Posner: I did think about it, absolutely. I'm very open-minded and to be very honest with you, I cut down on it a little. It did bother me a little. I cut down a little on the soy supplements I was taking. The more I looked into it, it made a lot of sense on that. All that about Asian women are brought up on soy and in America we just incorporate it into our diets now and it made sense. I'm open minded that way and always willing to learn.

lmae47_lycos: Just a side note: I have had the colonoscopy. It is not the monster I thought it would be. It was quite easy, no pain, and my only complaint was that I was hungry, so I urge all to get this done. No one should have to die from colon cancer.

Posner: Fantastic! Thank you! I appreciate that. It makes me feel better. For November I'll make my husband take me out for a fabulous dinner after!

Moderator: Let's talk about the depression and the mental aspect of menopause.

Posner: That was a very interesting one. I am, by nature, a very up person. In the morning, as soon as I get out of the bed, I'm very happy and it was very confusing and scary. I would look at Gerald sometimes and I'd say I'm so blue I'm going to cry. He'd say why? And I'd have no idea. That was prior to my doing research into this. I'm not an expert because I'm not a doctor, but I think that the combination of all these hormone changes going on in your body and then all the information you're getting in itself can be quite downing. I have to really say this, that anyone who suffers from clinical depression I have such sympathy for them because mine was so mild. It's impossible to describe, but nothing can make you feel better. You feel like your soul has been robbed from you. But once I started to get control of my menopause, I think my mental attitude changed. I'm such a control freak that I think it gave me that little zest for it to come back. I don't really know which pill or which herb, but it could have been the gingko or the ginseng, or a combination of many things, or the exercise, or a bunch of things, but I did not try antidepressants because it wasn't consistent enough. I would have it and then it would disappear for days. The only thing I did consider was St. John's wort, but by the time I thought about it, I was luckily over that period. You feel like you're going mad, actually, and I really have a lot of sympathy for anyone who's going through it.

Moderator: You mention in the book that are other societies where women of this age are revered. Why are Americans so afraid of it?

Posner: I think, unfortunately, it goes back to we're obsessed with youth. I'll bring it into movie careers, like once a woman goes into her forties they're done, finished. It's not like that in England. I have a girlfriend where she's tried so many times in soap operas to introduce a healthy, vibrant woman going through menopause. They'll do gay issues, AIDS issues, incest, abortion, inter-racial relationships, single motherhood, but they will not put menopause in. In fact, she wanted to use me as this healthy vibrant woman going through this and they wouldn't have her put it in. They think it takes the sexiness away. I mean, why can't we be sexy?

marionb1_webmd: I've heard about essential fatty acids (EFA) being good for you. Do you use this and do you think it's worth adding?

Posner: Oh, yes, definitely. Being that I'm on a low-fat diet, I think essential fatty acids scare a lot of women. They're not fat. They're very good for the heart. And, it's just good for an overall thing, like high blood pressure, especially if you have a deficiency. It's especially good for cancer, allergies, arthritis, Your immune related diseases. But I recommend keeping them in the fridge during the summer. We can't manufacture them and that's why we need to put them in. That's why I eat a lot of fish, by the way, which contain the omega-3 fatty acids.

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