Orgasms: Becoming a Multi-Orgasmic Woman (cont.)
To have an orgasm during intercourse either you or your partner need to stimulate your clitoris during intercourse. You or your partner can do this with your fingers. There are also certain positions that make this easier, including a woman on top where she rubs her pubic bone against her male partner's pubic bone.
Orgasm during intercourse, if it is from clitoral stimulation, which is how 90% of women orgasm, is the same as an orgasm outside of intercourse. Some women, and these are the minority, are able to orgasm from vaginal stimulation alone. For women who have vaginal orgasms, they do feel somewhat different from clitoral orgasms, perhaps more diffuse and deeper and they require that a woman surrender physically and emotionally more intensely.
I certainly encourage you, if you're interested, to explore vaginal pleasure spots, which I discuss in detail in Chapter 5 of The Multi-Orgasmic Woman , but it is most important to stimulate the clitoris during intercourse to experience orgasm.
Having techniques for stimulation that work for you are extremely important in getting you hotter faster. I also find that women who have their first orgasm from oral sex are quicker to passion and that it is easier to have a subsequent orgasm. Do not minimize the importance of "foreplay" which is any sexual interaction prior to intercourse, and particularly clitoral stimulation, which, again, is the most important component of increasing a woman's desire and need to orgasm.
I teach women how to have this experience by feeling their desire or sexual energy in their bodies and being able to move it throughout their bodies in a simple cycle called the microcosmic orbit. This is an ancient Daoist energy pathway that runs up the spine and down the front of the body. Though it sounds strange, it is simple to learn. The benefits to your sexual pleasure and overall energy level are tremendous.
Other simple sexual techniques, such as "teasing" are helpful. This involves increasing stimulation and then backing off slightly and then increasing stimulation again so your body then expects that after reaching a peak of pleasure, a second peak will follow. After having one orgasm your body then expects, after a slight drop in desire, that a second will follow.
Other breathing and visualization techniques allow women to enhance the desire they feel in their body and as I described previously, move the energy up their spine and around their body so the desire is not simply concentrated in their sexual organs, but is distributed throughout their body. This both enhances pleasure and acts as a healing force to the body as a whole.
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