Sex: How To Make it Better (cont.)
That wouldn't even bother me so much but they don't keep it to themselves; they come home from work and as soon as the door is open start making crude jokes about me, about sex in general, etc. I do not think it's to hurt me in any way; its just "guy" talk. But it really bothers me! Its come down to not even wanting to spice things up in bed and withholding just because I feel so uncomfortable about what they are going to be discussing afterwards!
Then, if you feel you need to deliver an ultimatum, do so. Just be sure that you follow through. This doesn't need to taper down; this needs to stop altogether.
Have they come up with anything that can help women with their sex life as they have for men with Viagra? Maybe Viagra for women?
Viagra is a medication that helps men with their sexual functioning. This means that they get an erection with the help of the Viagra. An equivalent pill for women would help women produce lots of lubrication. That's because lubrication is the physical equivalent for women to erection for men. Many women have difficulties with wanting to be sexual, and many other women have difficulties with reaching orgasm. And it's certainly true that some women have difficulty with their lubrication.
My hunch is that your question may not be coming from the standpoint of I want more lubrication. My hunch is based on discussions I've had with many women, and all the interactions I have with women on the message board. It's seldom about lubrication. That's because there are bottles of lubricants already, and many people know about them and use them.
So, is there going to be a pill to help women want to have sex more? Not that I know of. There isn't a pill that makes men want to have sex more. There are hormones, testosterone for one, which can help people be more predisposed to wanting sex, but it doesn't override other issues, as I mentioned in the prior question.
The topic of women wanting to be more easily orgasmic is another issue. There are various gadgets being produced to enhance the likelihood of female orgasm occurring. Some of them are like a small pulsating/sucking device that is place over the vulva to increase blood flow to that area and cause sexual arousal. I get fliers and emails about these types of products from time to time. I'll try to make a list of them for the message board and post what they're about, what they supposedly do, and whether they seem valid. Of course, a vibrator works rather well to facilitate orgasm for women.
Have we got the desire pill? No. Are there pharmaceutical companies busily working on that? Yes, probably. I hope that answers your question.
My boyfriend and I have been dating for six months now and he wants to bring another female into our sex life for a few times and I am feeling insecure. We had a long talk about this last night and I am feeling that I am maybe doing something wrong in our sex life and was wondering if the effect will become a bad thing in our relationship. I don't know if I can stand by and let that happen. I thought we were happy. Is this a sign of unhappiness? Does this mean that he is not satisfied with me? I am very confused.
It's difficult to know for sure where your boyfriend is coming from, but here's my best guess. He may have a strong erotic attraction to the idea of a threesome with another woman. It sounds like a threesome is on his "hard drive," sexually speaking, pun intended. That means, to me, that he is not dissatisfied with you as a sexual partner. It's more likely to mean that he wants the experience of sexual activity with two women at one time. That may mean intercourse with one, while having oral sex with the other, or some combination of body parts like that.
It seems that threesomes work out the best when everybody involved thinks that the idea is arousing. Being persuaded into it generally doesn't work that well. It's kind of like blue cheese. You either like it or you don't. Unless you have some interest in it for you personally, sexually, and you wouldn't be doing it just to please him, I can't say I would recommend for you to try it. This might mean that the relationship doesn't go forward. But if a threesome is very important to your boyfriend, then he should probably make sure the person he's dating is interested in this before getting very, very involved.
Sex under duress just generally doesn't work well, and you might be setting yourself up for that. I doubt very much that it has much to do with how good a sexual partner you are.
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