Sleep: Coping With Couples' Different Sleep Needs (cont.)

So, what to do? You say it's too hot, I say it's too cold; you want the left side and so do I; you like a firm mattress, but I like a softer one. And then there's cover stealing, sleep talking, the pet in the bed, squeaky floors, too much light, too much noise. The list goes on.

Short-Term Fixes

Silence is golden. Even the faintest of sounds, like a car going by or the air conditioner turning on or off, can disturb your sleep. Try some of these sound barriers:

  • Earplugs. Consider using earplugs to quiet any snoring or other noises that go bump in the night. Think about trying some plugs even if you don't think noises wake you at night. You may be surprised at how much better you sleep.
  • Headphones for the TV or music player. If your partner is ready for bed and you feel like listening to TV or some music, try some earphones. Newer models can fit in your pillowcase.
  • Alarm clocks. If you and your partner wake at different times, consider something like a vibrating alarm clock that fits in your pillowcase so it doesn't disturb your partner.
  • Decongestants. If congestion contributes to snoring, see if taking a decongestant provides any relief.

Make a pillow barrier. A wall of pillows can help dampen sound and movement from your partner.

Stagger bedtimes. If your bed partner prevents you from getting to sleep, try going to sleep first, then have your partner join you after you have fallen into a deep sleep.

Find a great pillow and replace it regularly. Everyone loves a great pillow. So make it a point to find one that is just right for you. And replace it regularly. People tend to wait too long before replacing pillows. Don't wait until it is flat as a pancake.

Get a great bed -- or two. Interestingly, about half of all married couples would now choose a mattress as their first purchase. Getting that king- or queen-sized bed that is perfect for both of you may be difficult. It will also set you back some cash, but it's worth it. Remember, you are spending about one-third of your lives together on it, and it should last years.

You can customize your side of the bed by getting a mattress pad just for your side. Also, some of the newer beds are constructed in a way that dampens any movements of your partner so that he or she doesn't wake you by tossing and turning or getting out of bed. You may also consider getting two twins, pushing them together, and connecting them with a pad that rests along the junction of the two. This provides truly "independent suspension."

Plan for the kids. If your children wake you up at night, make a plan so that at least one of you is not disturbed and gets some sleep.

Darkness is very important. Even the light from an alarm clock can disturb your sleep. So make your room as dark as possible. Cover your windows thoroughly. Consider these products:

  • Eye covers. Some eye covers have a soothing lavender scent.
  • Book light. A variety of book lights let you finish that last page while your partner snoozes peacefully.

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