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Love, Intimacy, and Breast Cancer

What now? Here are insights on intimacy from women living ? and loving ? with breast cancer.

By Jayne Garrison
WebMD Feature

Reviewed By Cynthia Haines

Will my marriage fall apart ?
Will I ever want to have sex again ?
How do we re-create the "mood?"
What else can we do to create intimacy ?
What do I tell a man who asks me on a date ?

Will my marriage fall apart?

This diagnosis can make or break a marriage. You'll find that you have a better marriage after breast cancer, or you'll have no marriage. Fortunately, most women find the diagnosis makes a marriage stronger.

Your fight against breast cancer truly is a battle in the medical trenches. Let your husband or boyfriend climb in the trenches with you. Let him help in any way he wants. Some husbands come to every medical appointment and take notes. Some have their hands full just helping with the grocery shopping.

The point is, give your husband permission to be as involved as he wants. And understand that not every man can climb into the trench with you.

If you didn't have a strong relationship before your diagnosis, you may face a rough time now. But if you're both willing to work, you can find ways to get back to the love you shared years ago. A crisis has a way of drawing a couple closer.

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