New Book and Web Site Provide Breast Cancer Support for Men
producer John W. Anderson shares his inspiration behind creating resources for men
who are helping the women in their lives fight breast cancer.
By Laura Lee Bloor
Reviewed by Melissa Conrad Stöppler,
John W. Anderson's Seven Tips for Men
to Help the Women in Their Lives Battle Breast Cancer
Just listen to her. Sometimes that may mean not talking. She needs
to understand she is being heard. Remember that it is her situation, and she
needs to take the lead on it. Sometimes she may not move as quickly as you like,
but it's her deal, and you need to support it.
2. Follow her lead.
When she does take action, it is your job to follow her
lead, not take the lead. That can be hard for men sometimes.
3. Show her your love.
This is especially important after surgery so that she
knows you love her for who she is. Just being there for her is important. If
it's your wife or partner, touch, kiss, and hold her often.
4. Humor is critical.
The "laugh medicine" is vital. Don't underestimate it.
It will get you through the dark times.
5. Keep your influences positive.
When a woman you love gets diagnosed with
breast cancer, you'll be surprised at who steps up and who doesn't. Some will be
toxic people that you will need to remove from your group. Rally a strong
support team of friends, doctors, family, and spirituality.